Wife. Girlfriend. Mistress.

The Action Plan No One Gave You

Clinton Blais with Sherry Blais


Every long relationship arrives at the same place eventually. The daily grind takes over. The spark disappears. The two of you become roommates who share a mortgage and a calendar, and neither of you knows how to name what happened or how to get back.

This book is a system, not a set of tips. It came from one couple’s decades of figuring out how to build a marriage that stays alive under load — not by hoping for spark to return, but by understanding the mechanics of what actually holds a relationship together and running them on purpose.

You will not find a therapist behind this book, or a PhD. You will find a regular guy who did the work with his wife, learned what worked, and wrote down the system so you can run it too.


Available now on Amazon.

Paperback, hardcover, and Kindle.


The companion app is coming.

The mode ladder questionnaire from the book, built to retake as things change, plus tools for the two of you to use together. Join the waitlist and you will hear the day it opens.

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